old age problem

What do  the old age people need?

Is it money? wealth?or fortune or power?None of these? All they need is love ,affection,

care , some body to attend their needs,some body to share their thoughts and give

company in their leisure time, Expect people to treat them with dignity and

respect.But most of the people do not get these things .Rarely very few fortunate of the

family get these things and lead their last days with ease ,comfort, and satisfaction.

What is the reason for this?

People think that old people are good for nothing.They could not do any

thing without the help of others.This comment hurts the elders most,slowly eat away their self 

confidence.But for that reason some people become lazy to attend their own personal work.

1) How the people become dependent?

when people have power and money people may come voluntarily to assist them and by accepting 

that you are becoming dependent.

2)Due to the physical discomforts.Age ing bring many ailments,that time the discouraging words of 

others completely push down their self confidence.

3)Unless or otherwise it is asked you should not give advice or expect others  to act according to your

will or wish.Must brush aside all your disappointments if others

do not act according your expectation.

4)Respect others thoughts. old people thought that youngsters are not havingexperience to tackle a 

problem.No, not like that..Sometimes their angle of seeing the

problem are also correct. They too expect that their words must be heard.If it is not

correct explain to them the difficulties in executing that and make them to

understand it.

Due to physical weakness people loose their confidence and start to depend up on

others'help.Once you start to depend ,they srart to  dominate and expect to obey their

command and virtually you are becoming a slave.Independently if you do anything

the threat will come that they will withdraw all their help and support.NowTo avoid

this you must be physically and mentally fit.

It is very difficult to keep up your body and mind in a fitting position.As for as the

body is concerned it must be trained to do exercises to tone up the muscles.Energy

giving food must be taken at the required quantity ,in  proper time and intervels.

As for as possible do all your work yourself and be in the company of the yougsters.Do

use the appliances to do the work .If possible do all the work manually.ex:-

grinding,washing.mopping etc

For mental fitness don't spend time in seeing the serials,or gossiping about others.You

all know that in interfering in others' matter you are not getting any benefits.Do

meditation. It not only calms down your mind but also  improves your concentration.If you

are a theist, go to nearby temples and attend all the festivals there.If you are able to

walk ,do the shopping for the family.If not , assist in household chores

.

Now let us come to the youngster's duty towards the elders.1)Always remember that all

these days your parents cared you ,gave education to get a good job to support the

family.They only helped you to form a family of your own .In this case is it not the

duty of  the sons or daughters to to look after their parents' needs?If you say that they

would care only their children and they are most important, they fail to realize that

how it will pain the parents. When you deny duties towards the parents ,remember that

you don't have the rights to inherit their wealth.

Always keep someone to look after them when you go out of station. In this modern

world it is unavoidable to every one  to go out of their house either for work or engage

the family to refresh in theor holidays.Whenever time permits sit with your elders

and share your thoughts and narrate all that had happened in  their trips or at the

office.However much you are tired ,don't show your negligence or the frowning face.

Whenever you come across them talk with a smiling face.If you are not in a

good mood get excuse and assure them they would come to them later. 

What is the solution?

A good solution for this, is the vanaprastha life.If you have money to meet your

requirements, you need not depend on any one.There are so many good senior citizen

homes all over the world .Choose the one which will come under your budget and

settle there. Here you will get companions to meet your wave length

.

Lastly a request to the younger generation.What all you do to your elders are keenly

watched by your off springs.If you treat the elders with respect and take care of them,

your children also repeat the same to you .There won't be any necessity to go to a

senior citizen home. you will always enjoy your time with your family members.