The ultimate love

                                                                                                         

Love has many faces and meanings. 

Meaning differ at different stages and age.

1) childhood love

2) adolescent love and

3) Adults love and so on

Child hood love:----                  .

The other name for childhood  love is affection. Affection may be towards the child by the parents or by the child towards  the parents or from both.  Any way the parents showing love to their child is unconditional 'with out any expectation in their later period .Every parent think that their child should not suffer or face the hardships as they encountered in their life .For that they provide all the facilities even  beyond their limits.

When we are small children  we know, only our parents and their love. For every thing a child expects the parents' help. A child always expects not only physical help and security such as food, help to clean up the body and dressing, but also mental security through simple gestures like cuddling and tickling. Mothers feed is insisted not only for it's nutritional value but also for the emotional bond with the mother  The crying child becomes quiet as soon   as the mother takes and hugs to her chest and. a gentle rocking makes the child to fall in sleep. Parents shower their unstinted love on their off springs with out any expectations. The love and affection shown by the parents makes a child to grow up fearlessly and face the challenges in their later life .If we turn up the pages of a coward's life we may understand that their  childhood life would not have  been a pleasant one. Very often  the children who grow up in the family of strict,  unkind  quarreling parent will not have the courage to meet out the challenges for taking the decisions independently. Likewise the parents who are too much attached to their children and justifies their follies also could not give useful ,responsible good members to this society .They start to think that it is the duty of the parents to look after every need and  whatever mistake they commit would  be reprimanded. So both the extremes should be avoided.

      

Adolescent love:---Love in this age is due to attraction towards the other sex. Love comes in adolescent age is mostly temporary in nature. They could not differentiate between crush and love. In this age both the physical and mental  growth is very fast. Fast Hormone changes are seen. Due to this, there is swing in their moods. vibrant actions dominate their life. They try to attract the other sex by their style in their movements , dress, and enhancing their appearance. They go to the extend of neglecting studies. They blindly believe that conquering the others attention is the only aim in their life. However they forget, that to start their life earning is nec

ty no one can look after their partner happily. On failure, they become depressed. Sacrifice, adjustability, intimacy are mostly absent. As they are  dependent on their parents, they are bound by the rules of their family. Emotional attachment to their own family reign high. Hence all these factors make this love short lived.    Priority in this age is given to friendship , but even this friendship subject to changes as they move to the new environments. 

 

 Adults  love

Adults'love:--It has a broad spectrum it is not retrospective. This love is strong,permanant and lives for longer period till their end. Before entering in married life, one must make sure that they are physically and economically independent. Here apart from loving their  parents, they start to love their life partners. They love to provide all comforts to them and they become happy when the partners show their satisfaction by their smile or a hug. When children are born it encircles them. This love make them to think that what all they could not achieve in their life must be achieved by  their wards. For that they toil to their extreme. When they hear, the people pass good remarks about their children their heart brims with utmost  joy. that is why Tamil poet said ,"to get such a son what a penance his father must have done."

Grownups love blossoms into compassion, involves adjustability and sacrifices. They forgo their wants and some times their necessities too for the sake of  their loved ones even if they are not their relatives or friends.  As they mature in age this love circle expands to outside the family. They love even their pets as their own children.  They start to help the poor and needy. They  pity the people who are in distress. At one stage they start to realize that all in this world is transitory. No one is going to be with you till the end. Then they start to search  for the permanent companion .Once if they come to know the thing which has no birth and  death, say, the INFINITE. IT is their rescuer, who is ready to come to you when you truly and earnestly call HIM. Then they cling to HIS feet  very firmly .Surrenders every thing. Day and night  the thought of this SUPREME BEING occupies their mind. This unstinted devotion  removes all fear and anxiety .Then they understand,

This ultimate love towards GOD LEADS YOU  TO THE ETERNAL BLISS.