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How to live a happy life in your old age?

For the execution of any work a medium is required.If you want to take water you need hands or a vessel is needed. For your living, ahouse is required so also  for the aanma(soul ) to reside, this body isnecessary. Depending on the status of our physical body,   

our mental health and other works stand. Hence nurturing this body in a healthy way is very,very necessary. In a healthy body a happy mind resides.How to make our body a healthy one?Through exercise, we can tone up our muscles.To do exercise we need to eat healthy and energetic food.Over eating,unbalanced diet must be avoided.Contact with the contaminated environment must be avoided.Always we must be smart and don't expect or depend on others to do your work.Dependence on others some times end in disappointment and it in turn makes your heart unhappy.

As the season changes with time, so also our 

life.Disappointment,sorrow,anger,and happiness occupy our

life at different time.No man is neither happy at all  time nor

sad through out  his life. The problem is how to live in times

of adversity with out succumbing to the situation.Practicing

our mind to face the boom and crash equally is necessary.

Every one born in this world wants to live happily but are

they? Most of the people do not. They all aspire to find a 

way to live happily but choosing a proper path is difficult.For that we must have a clear thinking and strong determination.Most of us think that possessing a lot of wealth brings cheers in life. Of course it is, but it is short lived.At any time it may be lost due to fire , flood ,theft, or by  cheating.Safeguarding the wealth itself may occupy your full time.After some time you may get bored by owning that.It may become a burden

Happiness is a state of mind.It is entirely within your control.Never rely on externals for your happiness.Life is too short to go through personal sufferings.We can't put our happiness in other people's hands.Learn to be comfortable with what you are and don't try to change yourself just because others tell you  to change.

Time Management:-Even after the retirement you must engage yourself with some work or the other.We should not waste our time by sitting before the T.V or hanging out with our friends.We must be punctual in attending our work.If we get up at 5a.m, we must make it the habit to get up daily at 5a.m. So also bathing ,eating and walking time also strictly adhere to the particular time.To engage our self in a useful way we must voluntarily offer our service.

Smart:- Some people think that it is not necessary to dress up neatly in our old age. It is not so.Always we must look smart and neat.Clumsy dressed people will not draw respect from other people. The very appearence will yield the attention of other works.

Happiness is not something which is present in the external 

world,it is within you .Making your life with full of joy and happiness is resting in your hand.For that you must pray to God to give you a strong and clear mind.Life is not always a bed of roses.In every one's life there are thrones and bushes ,vultures and crocodiles.Overcoming those hurdles you need a strong will power.Identify your enemies with in you and get rid of them first.

The main factors which affect a happy life are:

1)Love and attachment:-

It is not wrong in doing your duty but attachment on the persons to whom you are helping or executing your duty is wrong.This attachment leads to expectation and these expectations lands in disappointment.You are bringing up your children by giving them good education ,healthy food and so on.That is your duty.Once they settle in life you should not expect them to act according to your wishes.If they need your help, you can guide them by your suggestions , but if you expect that all your commands must be obeyed, it  will result in disappointment and your happiness will fade away.  Once your off springs attain their age to act independently,let them be given freedom to live their own life.Staying away from other's affair will bring much peace to your heart.

Due to  your love towards them you are fulfilling all their needs.You think that they should not suffer in want of anything.But what it leads to?They become lazy and think that it is your duty to look after, not only they, but also their whole family.So your love ends in adverse effect.When you are not able to fulfill their wishes they become hostile towards you and your heart shrinks with disappointment and your health spoils.

money is necessary for running a smooth life but it is not the end of your life.There is a limit for every thing.To earn your money if you restlessly work with out sparing your time to spend with your family it is really ridiculous. Spending time with your family is a great asset for your old age.At least one meal a day must be with your family. Transparent talk with the family members bring intimate relationship.Infuse hope in others  that your support is there, not  only in prosperity but also in their adversity.Then people will stand by your side.A member in the family needs money for a genuine problem and he doesn't have the intention to squander your money,then you can willingly stretch out your helping hand which will further strengthen your bond.A strong bond will strengthen your heart which will bring abundant joy in your old age.

2)Contentment

What you got in your life is by the grace of God.Be satisfied with that and don't be greedy or jealous on seeing others.Always remember that the next generation is watching your behavior. Let them inherit all good qualities from you.For that you need not do anything, it will come on it's own.Even if it doesn't, you need not worry about it.

3)Telling lies

Have courage to accept the mistakes committed.Once if you start to tell lie,it may lead to tell a hundred more. A lire will not have a peace of mind.He will be in constant fear that at any time he might be exposed.I f he is exposed that he is telling lies then no one will trust them.Disgrace will be stamped on him, and the society will loose faith in him.Neglect of the society,humiliation, and disgrace will torment your mind, hence try to be truthful and earn respect in the society.

Sharing your problem is good but the solution what they offer should not be taken as such.Each one has different thoughts and different angles and different approach and situation . The intensity of the problem varies from person to person depending on the situation.The same problem in different situation varies in different velocity and depth.Hence we need different treatment.Here you think about the solution yourself and decide.
4)spirituality

To whatever religion you may belong ,have faith in the super natural power.Think that you are only an instrument and you are ordained to carry out the work given and not to expect the result. What ever work is undertaken , it must be done with at most sincerity and commitment,then the job satisfaction will come automatically to your heart

5)Be Independent and self reliant

By keeping good health and a fitting body you can do all your work in your old age.Attend all your work ,walk to the maximum chances and don’t depend on the vehicles.Get up early and walk to the market to purchase the vegetables and other things.Do exercise and yoga.Meditation makes your mind strong and reading habits push to be closer towards the world.Explore your passion and have acquaintance with the like minded people.

By following all these things you will not become weaker in body and mind.The result is the strong mind and body you will lead a happy life even in your old age